What holds you still is what keeps you small.
It’s easy to become caught in a cycle that looks like safety: a job you’ve outgrown but won’t leave, a relationship that feels familiar but not fulfilling, a routine that dulls instead of nourishes. Sorry if that hit a sore spot… well, actually, not really. It’s necessary to call out what no longer serves you.
The loop convinces you that comfort is enough, that stillness equals stability.
And yet, beneath the surface, something keeps whispering for more. Almost like background noise in the grand production of your life. Faint but insistent. It begs the question:
How long will you suppress the whisper?
Doors are hard to open, especially when you don’t know what’s on the other side. Trust me, I’ve recently stepped through the doorway & it’s not an easy task. But moving forward, in career, in love, in spirit, always requires sacrifice. It asks you to trade the life you’ve been living for the one waiting to be lived.
Part I. of The UNBecoming, Stuck, is all about the loop.
The loop is predictable, numbing, deceptively comfortable. It soothes our most primal instinct: survival. For this next line, I reach out to grab your hand, firmly but with love, & look you into your eyes as I say:
You were not born only to survive. You are meant to thrive. You deserve to flourish & expand. To rise to your greatest heights.
Remember that.
I know this because I’ve lived it. My work as a social media influencer was exhilarating at first. It took me to heights I had never even dreamt of: acting as the glorified chatterbox for ALDI—my voice and/or likeness has appeared in hundreds of interviews, leading content initiatives for Impossible Foods, working with too many Fortune 500 companies to name, all while providing myself, my family, & my closest friends with the luxuries of life. From the outside, my world looked golden, polished, statuesque. Without a crack or fleck of dust.
But inside, I was growing hollow. Slowly crumbling as I felt brittle & fractured. Because I had outgrown that life. I wanted more, but I was too afraid to leave the safety of comfort, peace, & ease for what the universe had in store.
The unknown never feels safe. Never feels stable. But it’s always the first place you land when you finally step out of the loop.
Reflection (start your week here)
I recorded this reflection so you can hear it, not just read it.
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