The Beautiful Mess of Shedding Who You’ve Been

The UNBecoming Reset · Week 4

Did you miss me? Maybe just a teeny-tiny bit?

It’s been a few weeks since the last installment of The UNBecoming Reset.

And it’s been a whirlwind for me, from the in-person screening of the complete short film to unexpectedly but happily submitting to a slew of film festivals (because yolo). I needed to catch my breath. Creation has a way of consuming you, even when it’s beautiful & soul-enriching.

big shoutout to screenland armour for the marquee

So, I gave myself permission to pause.

Well, actually, I forced myself to pause.

To lean into stillness. To let calm do its quiet work. For someone like me who thrives on motion, that wasn’t easy. But I needed space to process the full breadth of this project & what its completion truly meant to me. It’s the culmination of months of unraveling, of falling apart in ways I didn’t expect & growing in ways I didn’t know I could. It’s the culmination of every panic spiral, every sleepless night, every voice in my head telling me I wasn’t doing enough, being enough, creating enough. It’s the culmination of what burnout really looks like when the cameras are off and you can’t outwork the ache anymore.

This project became the container where I poured everything: the anxiety, the grief, the pain, the hope & somehow, in the process, it started to feel like alchemy. Like all the chaos had finally turned into something I could hold. Something that made sense.

Something that was uniquely mine but universally relatable & understood.

Now, with a little more stillness in my body & clarity in my mind, I’m ready to return. The next chapter of the Reset is one of my favorites: Shedding. It’s about release & the sometimes uncomfortable process of peeling away what no longer fits, like a snake shedding its skin.

Part IV. of The UNBecoming, Shedding

Shedding isn’t graceful. It can feel raw, uncomfortable, even lonely, like standing in the middle of a room full of clothes that no longer fit, surrounded by versions of yourself that used to make sense. You try to squeeze back into them, but something in you resists. Something in you knows: it’s time to outgrow this.

There’s bone-deep grief in that knowing, but also relief. Because once the shedding begins, so does the becoming.

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In this stage of the Reset, we learn to peel back the layers we’ve mistaken for truth. The stories we’ve told ourselves about who we should be. We practice standing in the skin of who we are now, tender & exposed, but honest.

Shedding isn’t about loss. It’s about making room for what’s real. It sounds so cliche but it’s THE TROOF.

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Reflection (start your week here)

I recorded this reflection so you can hear it, not just read it.